“Have you found any good men recently?” asks my one of my roommates.
I pause in the midst of mixing ingredients for a pie crust. The change in conversation from baking to lack of boyfriend issues momentarily surprises me. Then as I slowly begin mixing again, I say, “No. To be honest, I haven’t been looking.”
“My friend says that most of the people in your department are on average older.”
“Yes, that’s right.” And practically all of them are attached to someone else. In fact, I’m part of the minority that isn’t attached. I don’t think I care about it all that much. I don’t even think about it unless she brings it up in her long ramblings about lack of boyfriends, or “good men” as she calls them. Thinking too deeply about my single state leaves me feeling vaguely uncomfortable. I know I have faults and personal issues of my own that have resulted in this, but for the moment I do not want to dig them up, I am satisfied as I am–individual, independent.
I wished she had asked me what temperature I would bake the pie instead. So I braced myself for her further lamenting.
“I’m worried that I won’t find anyone,” she continues, no longer looking at me but into space hoping that some higher power would hear her plea. “I’m almost thirty. I’m afraid of living the rest of my life alone.”
As someone who is content in her hermit status and is deaf to the biological clock, I reply lamely, “Well, some people find someone when they least expect it.”